The end of OS X? I think not.

I saw an article on MacRumors.com about the recent change of the iPhone OS to the iOS and it’s possible correlation with OS/X. Granted that the title of the website includes the word “Rumors”, but some of the comments I saw were quite ridiculous. Folks are already talking about the demise of Apple’s desktop operating system, “OS/X”, because of a rumor that Apple may rename OS/X with something to the effect of having an “i” in it or have it fall under the new iOS name.

You know what? Maybe Apple will rename it something else, or maybe they won’t. As anyone who follows Apple knows, you can’t always count on anything they’re going to do until Steve Jobs or other representative officially announces it. Some people are making the comments that Apple is going to do away with the entire platform of OS/X and replace it with the touch based iOS that is found on the iPhone, iPod Touch and iPad. So far that is all speculation and conjecture based on the following quote.

They are currently thinking of using iOS as the default naming/branding of Apple OS. We would then have iOS desktop, iOS server and iOS mobile. The final decision is not taken yet, however, the proposal seems to be well supported by the high management, it would give a better exposure and unity to Apple OS platforms while making communication easier.

You can read the tiny announcement here but as you will see, there is absolutely no credible source cited, or any source cited for that matter. It just amazes me at some of the conclusions people will come up with based on little or no information and with no credible source.

Sure it’s fun to speculate on what Apple might do, but get a grip and try to make your rumors a little more believable. I mean really, can you honestly expect that they would dump the traditional desktop platform for a touch based platform? I certainly don’t think so. I think that could be compared to the auto industry dumping the combustion engine in all their products and going electric. How would that affect society? There goes the trucking industry and heavy machinery industry and so on. I don’t think it can be done, at least not in the next 10-20 years based on where we are today.

I am not God, and neither are you.

Are you listening to me, or do you just hear me talking? Are you just waiting for me to stop speaking so you can have your turn to say what is on your mind? Is it more important for you to interrupt me to tell me what is on your mind instead of listening to what I am right in the middle of saying?

Listen people, please, listen. I am not God and neither are you. What I mean by that is that I do not speak in absolutes and neither do you; Only God can do that with authority.

When you’re engaged in conversation do you really pay attention to what the other person is saying or are you not paying much attention and just waiting for them to stop so you can say what is so important to you. I bet if the answer to that is that you’re just waiting for your turn, you probably also think that when you’re speaking about whatever is so darned important to you, that the other person really is listening to you and cares about what you have to say. In all actuality, they’re probably feeling the same way as you do when they’re talking. “I can’t wait for them to shut up so I can enlighten them with my thoughts” or “I have to tell them how great I am at doing this“. And if they really are listening to you and paying attention, caring about what you’re saying, then you are a freaking jerk for not being attentive and receptive of their thoughts in your “conversation” with them.

With that said, people often may hear you say something like, for example, “I usually take this route to get to work”. Someone may actually remember that you said that and the one day you choose to take a different route than you had stated before, they will then proceed to beat you up for taking that different route. “Oh! I thought you said you always take this route. What happened to that?”

What’s wrong with that there? Well let’s see. First the example is NOT an ABSOLUTE. In the example, I used the word “usually”. That word implies a pattern that is often followed, but on occasion you may do something different. Now to make that example an absolute, you could substitute the word “always” for “usually”.

Secondly, the other person said “I thought…”. That short phrase usually gets us all in trouble a lot. What we think happened, a lot of times isn’t what really happened. Now either the other person really thought that you “always” take that route because they truly weren’t listening to what was said, or they purposefully chose to beat you up over something they felt you went back on against an earlier statement. In either case you’re a jerk.

As an introvert, I am not a man of much speak. I often talk very little in comparison to the average extrovert which is about 75% of the population. But I will tell you this much, I choose my words very carefully when I do speak. I am a person who typically means what he says, and says what he means. I don’t talk just to have my voice heard.

So when I say something or make a statement, I often choose words like “usually”, “should” and “often” which leaves me wiggle room in whatever I just said. That is due to the fact that I am not God and I may not always stick to what I said. I may change my mind or go back on something. I may want to deviate from my norm, and I would appreciate it if you would actually listen to what I have to say and absorb it somewhat so that when I do something different from what I may have said, I don’t want to get beat up for what you presume I said. It might even show that you care a little about the other person if you actually listen to them.

That is why I am not God and neither are you. We cannot speak in absolutes because we may end up eating our words when what we say doesn’t always work out.

Yes, I am an introvert and I like it.

introvertsIt should be no secret to those people who know me that I am an introvert, that I don’t like spending a lot of time socializing. That doesn’t mean I am a hermit though. On occasion I do enjoy socializing but only with a few people and in controlled doses. But mostly I prefer being alone on my time. I spend my 40 hours a week at work, sometimes a few more, and then I spend an hour or so exercising at my local gym 5 days a week and go to church on Wednesday’s and Sunday’s. By the time I am finished with all that I am exhausted, physically and mentally. All I want to do is go home and relax, not talk to anyone, not play music, and not turn on the Blu-ray player for a while. I just want to sit or lay down and be still for a while. I don’t want to engage in conversation, but if I must, I want to keep it short and to the point and then go back to my “me time”.

Many times people want to invite me out to their parties or gatherings or organized social events. I really hate these things and I almost always decline their invitation, politely albeit. But I hear things like this:

You don’t know how to have fun.

Oh, come on!

Party pooper!

I found the perfect answers to some of these sayings from a blog posting on the website Psychology Today in the article “How to piss off an introvert”

You don’t know how to have fun. I know how to have fun. It just doesn’t involve crowds, high decibels, or costumes. Maybe you’re the one who doesn’t know how to have fun–d’ja ever think about that?

“Oh, come on!” That’s an unacceptable response to my polite refusal to participate in something that doesn’t look fun. And if you grab my arm and try to drag me into it, I am not responsible for my actions. I promise you, expletives will occur.

“Party pooper!” Do what you want, I don’t care. I’m not pooping on your party. If anything, I’m pooping on my own party and that’s none of your beeswax. I’m pretty sure you’ll manage to continue having fun even if I’m not there.

These responses to the things you extroverts tell me almost mirror exactly what I feel when you say them to me.

Just because you invited me to go do something and I don’t want to go, doesn’t at all mean I hate you, or I hate “insert your activity here”, or that I don’t know how to have fun, or that I outright disapprove of “insert your activity here”. The truth is I probably don’t disapprove of your activity and I do know how to have fun; I have fun in my ways. I don’t hate you, and if I did you would know it and you would not have invited me along in the first place because you knew I hated you. I don’t mean any personal offense to you when I decline your invitations, but if you take offense to it, then you have problems of your own to deal with or it’s your Muppet Baby imagination acting up.

Another blog posting from Psychology Today has a few things in it that I like and want to share with you. The article is titled “Field Guide to the Loner: The real Insiders”

In our society, where extroverts make up three-quarters of the population, loners … are pegged as creepy or pathetic. But soloists … can function just fine in the world—they simply prefer traveling through their own interior universe.

Loners often hear from well-meaning peers that they need to be more social, but the implication that they’re merely black-and-white opposites of their bubbly peers misses the point. Introverts aren’t just less sociable than extroverts; they also engage with the world in fundamentally different ways. While outgoing people savor the nuances of social interaction, loners tend to focus more on their own ideas—and on stimuli that don’t register in the minds of others. Social engagement drains them, while quiet time gives them an energy boost.

Contrary to popular belief, not all loners have a pathological fear of social contact. “Some people simply have a low need for affiliation,” says Jonathan Cheek, a psychologist at Wellesley College. “There’s a big subdivision between the loner-by-preference and the enforced loner.”

Matsuoka says, “I can’t do large crowds with a lot of noise,” she says. “It’s stressful to maintain positive interactions and introduce yourself 20 times. I really have to turn on my motor to do that.” Miina Matsuoka lives by herself in New York City. She owns two cats and routinely screens her calls.

Just as the article states, loners are pegged as creepy or pathetic. For a world that is obsessed with “don’t judge me!” those things are awfully prejudiced against people like me.

Social engagement drains me just as the article points out; that is so true! I need my quiet time to recharge, I really do. I am one of those people who have a low need for affiliation. I don’t need or want millions of “friends”. I can count my close friends on one hand and I like it that way. Everyone else is either a casual friend, an acquaintance, a co-worker or a complete stranger.

Casual Friends:

These are the people that I see on occasion and don’t mind socializing with for a short time or even to go out and do something with. But it’s not going to happen very often, that is for sure. This doesn’t mean that I hate you, because if I did you wouldn’t be a casual friend.

Acquaintances:

These are the people I may see on occasion or even less and about all I care to say to them is “Hi, how’s it going? That’s cool; well see ya later”. I don’t have much preference for you either way, I don’t necessarily hate you, but I also don’t want to be your friend either; I’m all stocked up for now.

Co-workers:

This is one that most of my co-workers and most people in general don’t understand about me. This one is a product of my environment from my time in the Marine Corps. In the military you live, train, eat and work together with your co-workers every day. You share the same barracks rooms together, you go to the same jobs together, you share meals together, you go on training missions together and you also go to war together. You are with the same people essentially 24 hours a day every day for your time in the military. For me that was draining. I tried to avoid going out of the guys all the time and stayed in my barracks room or went out alone as much as I could just to get some of my cherished “me time”.

So when I left active duty I made a rule for myself, that I would separate my work life from my personal life. I have my friends in my personal life and my friends in my work life. As a rule, the twain shall never cross paths. There are however, a couple of people I know through work that I do consider personal friends and will socialize with outside of work, but that is exceptionally rare for me to do.

As an introvert, I don’t want to spend all day every day with my friends from work or my personal life. Just a little time for each is all I want. Too much time with someone or several people at once wears on me and drains me mentally. I just want to get away and have some peace and quiet. If I spend too much time with anyone, I start to grow weary of them and then don’t want to be around them at all for a long period of time. I spend enough time with my “work friends”, i.e. 40 hours a week and that is usually more than enough for me to handle and at the end of the day I am relieved to go to the gym or home. And I don’t say that as a knock against any of them at all; it just means that I have exhausted my social battery.

This rule of mine is also not a knock against anyone else, especially you extroverts out there, If you have friends from work that you like to hang out with on your own time, hey that is cool with me. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with that and I am not going to judge you for it. It’s your life and live it the way you want. Just please let me live my life the way I want and try not to criticize me for my ways which are different than yours.

My status:

Now after reading this posting you’re probably thinking this guy is crazy and there is no way he could be married. Well you’re partly right. I am not married, but I also am not crazy. Yes I am single, have no girlfriend and no children. You may think that is crazy or that I am completely socially inept or that I am a lonely person. But that is not true. I am single, and I like it that way (which is a posting for another day).

So the bottom line here is that I prefer to be left alone most of the time and I especially don’t like parties or organized social gatherings and that doesn’t mean I don’t like you. It just means I like my socializing in a limited manner on my terms and like more quiet time than social time.

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